My brother in law is dealing with cancer. how can I help my sister deal with him??

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• Dagmar

  
  
  
  Well, can't give any "professional" advice about it, just share my personal experience - assisting in the technical aspects of the disease (e.g. all the paperwork, coordinating the treatment and insurance issues) may help a lot and take off some of the stress. Allowing her to have some time for herself, without having to take care of her husband may also give her some periods of serenity and so forth.
  
  Her feelings may be an acceptable reaction to the change (defined as "adjustment disorder"). However, she may suffer from actual depression, so consulting a professional may also help, as there are quite effective treatments for these problems.
  
  Take care,

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• electro

  
  
  
  thanks, that was a good tip, she was happy to give up the paper work and pass it on to me... any other tips guys?

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• Harri

  
  
  
  I lost my husband to cancer 5yrs ago, and it really helped me alot when my friend would come and just sit with me, helped with my house work, phone calls, meals and just a hug now and again. Give her all the time she needs to talk and cry and allow her time to be afraid. It is all normal. Just keep loving her, she knows your there and will appreciate it. Even small things you do for her are now big. When you can make her smile do so..... My prayers are with all of you.

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• electro

  
  
  
  Thank you So much Harri, I will try doing all that. I'm sure you right about small gestures being important now... may god be with you

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