A lot of people survive tragic childhoods, bad marriages,etc, remember you are not alone on that one. I went through about 5 years of therapy to learn how to stop the cycle I was in( based on years of childhood abuse, mental, physical and sexual)I thought I was worthless and deserved whatever happen to me. The first thing I had to work on was my own self esteem. I had to realize I was a person that deserved better. I worked out a lot of issue in therapy and I really think if you are still in therapy you need a change in therapist! I just don't think someone with that much time in therapy should have such a low opinion of themselves, maybe you haven't actually worked out the problems from the past.
Whatever challenge you face, you can rest assured that someone else has had it even worse, and yet gone on to triumph. If so, what prevents you from doing the same? The answer must inevitably be - yourself. YOU are the primary force shaping you life. If others faced similar external challenges and triumphed, then external circumstances are NOT the primary determiners of your life. Your attitude of mind is.
The key to improving your self-esteem is to take conscious control of your self-talk. Negative self-talk is the prime cause for creating and maintaining negative self esteem. The things you say to yourself in your mind, as well as the meaning you attribute to events in your life, combine to create the reality you end up live. Most people's self-talk is roughly 95% negative. They see the worst in themselves and in everything that happens. Putting a stop to such self-destructive thinking is vital. It is our thoughts and expectations that shape and produce what we become. The quality of our lives is a direct result of them.
I suggest working on your self esteem and maybe do some volunteer work in a nursing home or somewhere you would be interested in. In seeing yourself help others you may feel better about yourself. Post a question perhaps and ask other's what best helped them overcome there low SE. Most of all remember you are special, your life is important and work on YOU! I wish you the best. God bless.
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